Sis·ter·hood
/ˈsistərˌho͝od/
1.the relationship between sisters: "much of sisterhood is about sharing lipsticks"
2. society, or community of women linked by a common interest, religion, or trade.
I don’t know how to explain it; this topic has been burning on my heart as of late.
Maybe its due to the many conversations I have had with young women who crave a sense of community and sisterhood but due to past negative experiences, lack the trust in genuine friendship. Maybe it’s the whispers I hear high and low, here and there of the admiration many women have for each other and yet they lack the courage to convey that admiration, for fear of rejection. Maybe it’s the relationship I have with my very own sisters and sisters in Christ.
*shrugs all I envision is a sisterhood utopia group of strong women, whether they be related or not, allowing a safe space amongst themselves to be transparent and vulnerable which in turn leads to nothing but encouragement and empowerment. Then I see the quiet shy soul in the corner who can see that same group of women, longing for such a sisterhood and yet either fear or insecurities hold her back.
I recently sat in a group of sisters in Christ and they each mentioned that finding genuine friendships without any ulterior motives seemed to be challenging. They further expressed that in today’s society (with social media playing a big role in this) it seemed that more often than not women viewed each other as competition rather then a pillar of community. As I sat and thought about my own encounters with women in the past I have found this statement to be true—I have often times heard many young women who wished to avoid drama state “ It is so much easier to be friends with boys than with women.."
I’m not going to sit here and preach about how we should all be perfect, everyone will be friends, and sing Kumbaya around a fire. That is all well and good but ideally, that is not how it works. There are so many sets of personalities, insecurities, struggles, and friend groups.
Truth be told not every one is meant to be your friend and not everyone wishes you well despite the smile they give to your face. Saved or unsaved, good person or not…but that’s another blog post. Despite our differences as women whether it be personality based or culturally, we have one common factor at hand…The grace of God.
I can feel the digital eye rolls as I type this, but seriously think about it....
No matter your race, creed, culture, etc. one thing that can unite people all over the world is the common belief that we were all dying and now have been saved by grace. If you’re not a believer, then let me tell you –This grace applies to you as well.
Sisterhood is a helper, support, and an example of love and grace we are given every single day. You don’t have to be friends with everyone, in fact, the Bible definitely says be wise and ask for discernment to determine who should be apart of your squad in doing life. Lawd knows I had to learn that lesson a few times the hard way. Seriously though ladies, we need each other. We as humans are not meant to do this life alone.
->Check it: “Two people are better than one , because they get more done by working together. If one falls down, the other can help him up. But it is bad for the person who is alone and falls, because no one is there to help. If two lie down together, they will be warm, but a person alone will not be warm.” | Ecclesiastes 4:9-11
I want to be intentional about being intentional. My squad may be few but my love for all is great, and that’s only because literally I’ve been loved beyond my own understanding after messing up day after day after day. I have to pay it forward, but I can't do it alone. Sisterhood is a good thing, not an easy thing but a fulfilling thing. It shows us our inner ugly, our scars, our pettiness (** raises guilty hand high), but most importantly if we let it, it can be an example of Grace , forgiveness & Love!
Be encouraged loves, and please message me your experiences and how it has impacted you? Chat coming soon to a digital platform.
Muas!
Until next time,
Be encouraged!
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